Networking for win-win outcomes

DreamI know quite a few people who are either currently in dire straights or who’ve been there, done that in the last few years. Every time I hear another story of the jams and fixes that my friends have had or are experiencing, I wonder why we don’t adopt more of a tribal mentality. Why can’t we help each other work through the issues that face us?

People seem to be pretty good helping others during life-threatening diseases or recovery from natural disasters. When my mother was dealing with radiation treatments for cancer, the neighborhood around her was fabulous. Neighbors checked in frequently, brought delicious meals, and offered both my mom and dad moral support.

I would love to see this spirit extended to other life experiences — not just the life-threatening ones. What about handling such issues as loneliness or “stuckness” or emotional decision-making during life journeys? Wouldn’t it be great to have a place you could go where people could give you insight and feedback on whatever it is you’re dealing with — even if it isn’t the end of the world?


The way I see it, we’re brought up to compete with one another. This paradigm gets set early on in life. We’re taught in every which way possible to look out for number one, often no matter what the cost or breach of integrity is involved. Winning is the most important thing.

But rugged individualism has a hefty price tag. It often creates intense loneliness of all types. We’re so geared toward defending our superiority or controlling our personal universe that we often don’t reach out either to help or to be helped. Reaching out is often perceived as being weak or overwhelmed, and even when it is so, it activates feelings of being a needy loser.

But this is Earth School, I believe, and we are put here to learn life lessons. Despite the earthly illusions of winning and losing, and the wide variety of status levels among everyone, my spiritual truth is that we are all equal. Throughout a multiplicity of lifetimes, we play all the important parts. Sometimes we’re rich and sometimes we’re poor. Sometimes we’re winners and sometimes we’re losers. Sometimes we’re the good guys and sometimes we’re the bad guys. Getting my head around that means to me that in the biggest picture, no one is better and no one is worse.

If that is all so, then cooperation makes more sense to me. The more we look out for one another, the more we simultaneously help ourselves, and the more we are evolving our lives.

In our culture winning is so often depicted as the big prize, the trophy, the ultimate. Yet to me the biggest win would be for win-win.

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